While I am totally aware of the term cougar, I today found out there is a new species in town, a Nougar, which apparently stands for New Cougar and refers to women in their early to mid 30's, which is on average about 10 years younger than the average cougar, refuses to grow up, or take dating too seriously and thinks that because she's still living like a 20-something she might as well go out with one, too.
Today's vocabulary and categorizing of peoples life choices makes a person wary about letting anyone know too much about their private life, if you are past 30 and dating a younger guy this is your box, if you are over 40 and dating a younger guy here is your box, if you are over 50...what is their category? the "past sell by date" ? I mean isn't age just a number?
At what age do we have to stop enjoying our life? and does it matter what age our partner of the moment is?
some women by 30 may have already endured marriage and now either are divorced, with kids, or maybe they are career minded , no kids, not wanting to settle down.
In today's society women are empowered to take their life into their own hands, be responsible, and gone are the days of subservience to men and their needs in a narrow minded marriage.
But still while men can screw around either on their wives or girlfriends, and called studs , women continue to be categorized as a slut, loose, a cougar, a nougar, always inferring that its all about sex, Men can get away with it but women cant!
More and more I am hearing women wanting sex as much as men, gone are the days of the infamous headache and not in the mood ...in fact those words seem to come from men more than women anymore.I think because women now have much more power over their own lives they are enjoying sex more and want it more, because the 60's idealism of women and their role in sex (lie back and think of England) in other words you have no choices, if your husband wants sex, then he gets it, is gone..we live in a more balanced society and women take control.
But does this mean that men will lose his gentlemanly trend, quit opening doors, quit taking care of his woman, quit being polite and respectful? I realize that even now there are those guys that do not give women respect anyway.
But really what is the future of Marriage and relationships? is marriage dying out in favor of more disposable ideals? and for those of us who are married maybe not on our first marriage , are we destined to always be looking for the younger model? is that what men are doing when they leer after that leggy, skinny blonde that just walked past? and I don't know about you but if my husband does that I wonder what he is thinking when he does it? and how inferior it makes me feels and insecure..wonder if he would still do it if he knew that it did that to me, and if I'm leering after a younger guy how would it make him feel?
Do we really think a younger model is going to be the answer? and if it is the answer why is it the answer? what is going wrong in our present circumstances to make us even think in that direction? maybe that's what needs exploring, and not just a trade in.
No marriage is perfect, everything takes work, sometimes such hard work you do wonder if its worth it.. and maybe for some it isn't if both partners are doing their very best.
And maybe for some, the younger models help them feel good about themselves.I don't know all the whys and what nots.
I just know that society should quit categorizing people, and allow them to do what makes them happy.
If being Mrs Robinson, makes you happy then go for it and fuck what anyone says.
Its your Life, so go live it!
Laters
Thursday, September 20, 2012
Wednesday, September 12, 2012
F*** You Predictive Text
OMG is all I can say, stupid damn phone and the predictive text, so Im trying to comment on a post about Jeff Dunham's Walter by saying " I think Im married to Walter" simple ?? you might think so ..but first of all the phone tried to insist I was married to a Walrus!! umm really does this sound like something I would do? ok so then it tried to make me say I was married to Wal*Mart?! WTF is with this stupid technology??
I know I spend a lot of time in Wal*Mart but no I do not intend to marry it ..kinda reminds me of some childish thing kids (and sometimes adults) say when they ask you if you like something ..and then say are you going to marry it? LOL.
I digress, if my phone is going to predict what Im going to say then at least predict something that makes sense!! surely it knows I am a human and would not in the first place even contemplate marrying a walrus, and second how can I possible marry a grocery store , unless buying shares into it is considered a "marriage" of sorts.
When I try to text my friend Baily it asks me if I mean beryllium??!! Jesus Christ do I even have someone of that name on my contact list?? NO so why ask me if I mean some random chemical that I have never heard of?
Then if it really cant predict anything readable it then goes off into random letter mode and I get a word that isnt even a word, just a jumble of letters.
So I can hear some of you saying "turn the predictive text off" yes well I would do that but in some instances it is useful, like when Im typing a word such as recognize, in UK they spell it recognise here it has a Z, so its helpful in that it just reminds me of that slight difference when I cant remember which one for which country LOL,
I do know tho without the phones help that I am not married to a walrus!!
Laters
I know I spend a lot of time in Wal*Mart but no I do not intend to marry it ..kinda reminds me of some childish thing kids (and sometimes adults) say when they ask you if you like something ..and then say are you going to marry it? LOL.
I digress, if my phone is going to predict what Im going to say then at least predict something that makes sense!! surely it knows I am a human and would not in the first place even contemplate marrying a walrus, and second how can I possible marry a grocery store , unless buying shares into it is considered a "marriage" of sorts.
When I try to text my friend Baily it asks me if I mean beryllium??!! Jesus Christ do I even have someone of that name on my contact list?? NO so why ask me if I mean some random chemical that I have never heard of?
Then if it really cant predict anything readable it then goes off into random letter mode and I get a word that isnt even a word, just a jumble of letters.
So I can hear some of you saying "turn the predictive text off" yes well I would do that but in some instances it is useful, like when Im typing a word such as recognize, in UK they spell it recognise here it has a Z, so its helpful in that it just reminds me of that slight difference when I cant remember which one for which country LOL,
I do know tho without the phones help that I am not married to a walrus!!
Laters
Tuesday, September 11, 2012
Don't Mess With My Coffee!
For the record there are 2 things you dont mess with where I am concerned, one is my coffee and the other is that few minutes of pre human state waiting for the caffiene to kick in first thing in the morning,
So Jerry decided all on his own while I left him unsupervised yesterday , to pick up coffee from the store, gasp and horror he bought the cheaper can , well Im sorry I do not like the cheaper coffee, to you coffee may be just coffee but to me its one of the most important tastes in the world , even rating above wine!
I have always bought the better quality coffee ever since I started drinking it what seems like hundreds of years ago, why should I make do with a cheaper coffee? just because its cheaper? but it doesnt taste as nice! and no dear I will not get used to it! why should I have to?
I gave up cigarettes, I dieted, bacon got put on the restricted list..YOU WILL NOT DENY ME THE ONE THING I HAVE LEFT THAT ISNT HIGH IN CALORIES!!
Just because he isnt fussy about what coffee he drinks, he thinks I will feel the same way, umm no, I can even tell if its decaf coffee without you telling me so yeah Im gonna notice that this brand stinks lol.
When I used to smoke, my rule in the mornings was dont talk to me til Ive had 3 cigarettes and at least 3 cups of coffee,so now I dont smoke, it had better be damn good coffee so I dont think about that cigarette.
Thanks goodnes for Mel at work, she went out on her break and got me a decent cup of coffee to keep me going til I can get to the store and get a decent coffee,
::rolls eyes::
Men!!!
Laters
So Jerry decided all on his own while I left him unsupervised yesterday , to pick up coffee from the store, gasp and horror he bought the cheaper can , well Im sorry I do not like the cheaper coffee, to you coffee may be just coffee but to me its one of the most important tastes in the world , even rating above wine!
I have always bought the better quality coffee ever since I started drinking it what seems like hundreds of years ago, why should I make do with a cheaper coffee? just because its cheaper? but it doesnt taste as nice! and no dear I will not get used to it! why should I have to?
I gave up cigarettes, I dieted, bacon got put on the restricted list..YOU WILL NOT DENY ME THE ONE THING I HAVE LEFT THAT ISNT HIGH IN CALORIES!!
Just because he isnt fussy about what coffee he drinks, he thinks I will feel the same way, umm no, I can even tell if its decaf coffee without you telling me so yeah Im gonna notice that this brand stinks lol.
When I used to smoke, my rule in the mornings was dont talk to me til Ive had 3 cigarettes and at least 3 cups of coffee,so now I dont smoke, it had better be damn good coffee so I dont think about that cigarette.
Thanks goodnes for Mel at work, she went out on her break and got me a decent cup of coffee to keep me going til I can get to the store and get a decent coffee,
::rolls eyes::
Men!!!
Laters
Tuesday, September 4, 2012
Shoes, Tattoo's and Nosy Bitches!!
Hi everyone,
Well to be honest I did not know that how much I spend on shoes was a matter for public discussion, not that I care about what people think anyway, really life in a small town gets a little claustrophobic sometimes, I mean really , I think every time I fart they call a town meeting to discuss it!
Not that I care or think that any of you should either but I do actually look for bargains when shoe shopping, I also utilize coupons A LOT!
What you also have to realize while we are on the subject of clothing items, last year I lost a considerable amount of weight, making me lighter than I have ever been and a size clothes I never thought I would fit into, so yeah after 30+ years struggling with my weight and wearing nothing but tennis shoes, I think I am entitled to go a bit nuts wouldn't you agree??
I also work hard for my money, I have a full time job and no children at home, I do not smoke any more, if I choose to spend my money on things you don't like or wouldn't choose that's not my issue that's yours, so please don't bother me with your whining.
In fact it really just shows me you are jealous of my life and unhappy with yours, again your issue.
My tattoo's are also not up for discussion, its my body and my art, as are my husbands choices, I support everything he does, its his life and mine.
We get one life, why not do and try everything?? what difference does it make to anyone?
Just remember while you are pointing your finger at us you have four digits pointing back on yourself, so think wisely before speaking,
I'm amazed that in the short time Ive lived here I have not run screaming back to the UK, considering some of the behaviors I have witnessed towards myself and my husband.
Seems to me that either you want what I have or you're jealous of me, so I cant win either way.
Do people have nothing better to do??
Is my life really that interesting that every time I do anything it gets analysed and dissected to the Nth degree?
Ya know even the fact that I wore flats on sunday became someones issue!! wtf??
Im sorry I have to really giggle at the fact that some bitch made a remark that her heels were higher than mine, haha like I care!
So anyway, that is todays blog, isnt what I was going to blog about but some peoples attitude towards my life choices makes me shake my head in utter disbelief.
Laters
Well to be honest I did not know that how much I spend on shoes was a matter for public discussion, not that I care about what people think anyway, really life in a small town gets a little claustrophobic sometimes, I mean really , I think every time I fart they call a town meeting to discuss it!
Not that I care or think that any of you should either but I do actually look for bargains when shoe shopping, I also utilize coupons A LOT!
What you also have to realize while we are on the subject of clothing items, last year I lost a considerable amount of weight, making me lighter than I have ever been and a size clothes I never thought I would fit into, so yeah after 30+ years struggling with my weight and wearing nothing but tennis shoes, I think I am entitled to go a bit nuts wouldn't you agree??
I also work hard for my money, I have a full time job and no children at home, I do not smoke any more, if I choose to spend my money on things you don't like or wouldn't choose that's not my issue that's yours, so please don't bother me with your whining.
In fact it really just shows me you are jealous of my life and unhappy with yours, again your issue.
My tattoo's are also not up for discussion, its my body and my art, as are my husbands choices, I support everything he does, its his life and mine.
We get one life, why not do and try everything?? what difference does it make to anyone?
Just remember while you are pointing your finger at us you have four digits pointing back on yourself, so think wisely before speaking,
I'm amazed that in the short time Ive lived here I have not run screaming back to the UK, considering some of the behaviors I have witnessed towards myself and my husband.
Seems to me that either you want what I have or you're jealous of me, so I cant win either way.
Do people have nothing better to do??
Is my life really that interesting that every time I do anything it gets analysed and dissected to the Nth degree?
Ya know even the fact that I wore flats on sunday became someones issue!! wtf??
Im sorry I have to really giggle at the fact that some bitch made a remark that her heels were higher than mine, haha like I care!
So anyway, that is todays blog, isnt what I was going to blog about but some peoples attitude towards my life choices makes me shake my head in utter disbelief.
Laters
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